Saturday, July 28, 2012

Favorite Etsy Adoption Finds

There are a ton of amazing shops on Etsy.  Here are some of my favorite adoption related finds:











There are so many more wonderful shops and items.  These make great adoption shower gifts! 
Show me some of your favorites!

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Tick Tock of the Biological Clock

I haven't told much of my infertility story here on my blog.  It's a LONG story 8 years total, but here are the highlights.

2004- Said bye-bye to birth control
2008- Adoption of my Amazing Little Boy!
2009- Finally diagnosed with PCOS
2010- SURPRISE I am Pregnant :-)...... Sadly ended in miscarriage
2010-2011- Fertility Treatments including 8 rounds of Clomid and 2 IUIs
2010- Current- Taking Metformin to help regulate cycles,  much more regular than the past

You can fill in all the gaps with a whole lot of hoping, wishing, and praying, as well as, a ton of disappointing cycles ending with AF (aunt flow).

As you can see it's been a long journey.  I often divide it in my mind as the time before the birth of my son, and the time after.  I guess my life in general has that divide, the time before I was a Mom and the time since.  My son has enriched our lives in ways that I can not begin to describe.  He is the most amazing little man, and hands down the greatest blessing in my life.  He redefines the entire purpose of my life, and brings me so much joy.  He changed my marriage, made my husband a Father, and helps me find new reasons to fall in love with his Dad all over again every day.    To say my son was worth the wait would be a HUGE understatement.  If I had to endure those 4 years of infertility and heartache again, I would easily do it again.

I thought having a child would make accepting infertility easier, and in some ways it has.  I know the joy of being a mother, and have him there to hug and love.  When I had my miscarriage, he was there to comfort me and cheer me up.  His smile is contagious and just having him makes it hard to ever feel bad for myself.
But now that he has gotten older, he has openly expressed his wish to have siblings.  He reminds me regularly that he doesn't "have a baby", and that he wants to be a big brother.  It is so sweet to think that he wants a sibling, but it also breaks my heart.  I feel so bad that I can't make his wish come true as easily as he would like.  I am terrified that I might never be able to make it happen.  It was one thing dealing with my infertility and disappointment as it related to me and my husband, but to see it effect my son is so much harder. 

So here my biological clock is ticking away.  We agreed to keep trying to expand our family till my husband was 34, just 2 more years to go.  So now I hope for a miracle, and pray that it will happen, not just for me, but for my husband, my son, and all of our family members who have been waiting on another little bundle. 

What's the hold up, you might wonder?  Money.... It's the sad truth.  We work good jobs, own a home, have medical insurance, and raise a beautiful little boy.  But our insurance covers NOTHING for infertility!  That's right Zero despite the fact that I have a diagnosed medical condition.   And shockingly most insurance companies in the US do not provide coverage.  Furthermore, adoption is expensive.  The average domestic infant adoption is $20,000.  That's a lot of money!   Seriously how many parents have 20k sitting somewhere that they can spend without a financial return on that investment. 

So what is our plan?  We are trying to save up $25,000 over the next year and a half.  We would like to enter the shared risk program at our fertility clinic.  We get up to 4 cycles of IVF and if we don't bring home a baby all of our money is refunded!  We would then proceed with adoption, and would have all the money we would need to do so.  It's going to be a difficult task.  We are trying to come up with every creative and possible way.  We are pinching pennies and praying.  We are thinking about doing fundraisers.  I am rolling out new items in my 2 etsy shops all the time.  Let's just hope that the IVF/Adoption Fund grows faster then the sand runs out of my biological clock.

If you are trying to raise funds for adoption or IVF what have you done? 

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Christmas in July Shopping

Every year I say that I am going to beat the rush and start shopping for Christmas early  and every year I wait till the last minute.  Well I am proud to announce I finally started my Christmas shopping early this year.  So what inspired the change?  ETSY!  There are so many Christmas in July specials going on all over Etsy right now for all types of  products.  I love shopping etsy especially for gifts.  I recently did Mother and Father's Day shopping etsy style and got rave reviews from my parents and in-laws.  The gifts are so unique and most can be personalized!

So this July I am shopping Etsy and saving money and time.  I am so excited that I have finally started Christmas shopping early for once.  I have purchased 2 gifts so far.  I have a couple "possible" gifts in the works.  Why just possible?  Well the pcfteam on etsy is holding a silent auction.  I made a few bids for items and I am really hoping to win and scratch a few more things off of my list.  Check the auction out at the pcfteams blog http:// pcfteam.blogspot.com and check out the Christmas in July Auction.  They will have other events this month too!

So don't miss out on all the great deals this July.  It's never too early to start shopping for the most wonderful time of the year!

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Another Awesome Scavenger Hunt

PCF Team May Flowers Scavenger Hunt


 PCF Team on Etsy is having a great event for May! It is called the May Flowers Scavenger Hunt! This hunt will run exactly the way the April Flip Flop hunt was ran; so if you joined in on all the fun of that one, you are one step ahead of the competition….woohoo!

There will be 33 shops, and all will have a hidden picture that you will have to "hunt" through their shop items for! Each shop has donated a prize worth at least a $10 value; that is a total of $330 plus in prizes...woohoo!!! There will be a total of 7 prize packs given out (winners will be chosen at random by random.org, based upon number of entries correct and complete entries we have)...each prize pack will consist of 5 prizes...so each winner will get a prize pack of at least an incredible $50 value…how about that? The contest will begin at 9:00 EST on May 21st, and will run until midnight on June 4th!

***** all entries and PCF shop purchases must be submitted by midnight June 4th...and NO entries will be accepted after this time***


********************HOW TO ENTER*******************
Go to: CiaraCompanyBowtique.etsy.com and look for the listing that says “Starting Point.” This will give you all the details..and the first shop on your hunting adventure! (✿◠‿◠)

This is the starting point for this event!!! From here, you will then follow the links to the next shop on the scavenger hunt list! Every time you find the hidden picture, that item description will give you a link to the next shop. As you go through the shops, make a list of all shops, in the order you are given them. At the very last shop, you will be given an email address; you will send the completed list to this address. If anything is incorrect, you will be notified, and given a chance to re-do the hunt to get it all right! :)

***********WANT MORE CHANCES TO WIN? READ ON!!!**************

Everyone who sends a complete shop list, in the correct order, will receive one entry to win a prize pack.

If you "FAVE" the shops as you go through (you have to fave every single shop...this means having an Etsy account, and adding each one of the 40 shops to your "favorite shops" list…simply click on the tab to the left that says ♥add to favorites), then you get another entry.

If you "FAVE" one item from each shop as you go through (again, you have to fave an item from every single shop...to do this...when you have a single item from a shop pulled up…look to the right, and click the ♥icon that says "favorite"), then you will get a third entry.


If you BLOG about the team event, and send Nichole (info above) a link to the blog post, you will get 5 extra entries!

So, you have the opportunity to receive a total of 8 entries to win a prize pack in total!

****SUPER DUPER PRIZE PACK DETAILS-$330 VALUE AT MINIMUM*****

In addition, all shops are donating another prize...all 33 of these prizes will be combined into one HUGE prize pack. This pack will be valued at a minimum of $330!!! The winner of this super duper prize pack, will be the drawn out of entries from shopping with PCF Team shops during this event. Each dollar spent at a PCF Team shop during this event will earn you one entry...each dollar spent at one of the 33 shops on the hunt list, will earn you 2 entries. The more you shop, and the more you shop with the 33 shops on the list, the more chances you have to win! Please send transaction links of all purchases to Nichole at kidd.robin@ymail.com...thanks! Purchases not submitted will not be counted! I cannot calculate your entries, if you do not send me purchases...I need transaction links and dollar amounts for each purchase, and the shop name you purchased from.


Winners will be chosen by June 11th:) They will be announced on Nichole's blog at:ciaraandcompanybowtique.blogspot.com/ , on the PCF Team blog at: http://pcfteam.blogspot.ca/2012/03/pcf-team-spring-promotion-event.html , on other member's blogs, on the PCF Team Etsy Group: www.etsy.com/teams/10036/promoting-creative-friends, and on the PCF Team Facebook page, and you will also be emailed for shipping information if you are a winner! All annnouncements and emails for shipping info, will be sent out by the 11th of June; it takes a great deal of time to go through all of the faves, emails, purchases, and so on, and I want to make sure every entry that should be given is given. So, I take this very seriously, and take my time, to ensure everyone gets as many entries as the should! :)

 

You can join us on Facebook to keep up to date on this event, plus all of our ever-so-cool upcoming events...we always have something in the works! :) Our PCF Team Facebook page can be located at: https://www.facebook.com/#!/pcfteam

PS...a heads up..our next scavenger hunt will begin on July 21st..and we plan on holding another in September, November, and December...so get your Christmas shopping hats ready, and join us for spectacular handmade items, and some awesome deals! ♥♥♥


If you love this event, let us know...we are thinking of doing them often...let us know you want us to! :)

Monday, May 14, 2012

Shades Of Awareness Interview

Yet another AMAZING shop on esty that features infertility related merchandise.  Shades of Awarness is a beautiful shop that offers products for a variety of illnesses and causes.  You can find pieces that speak to most anyone's life with over 300 products featured.  Her products are beautiful and reasonably priced.  This shop is a must visit at http://www.etsy.com/shop/ShadesofAwareness



**What inspired you to start your etsy shop? I opened my Etsy shop after I was diagnosed with Chronic Lyme in July 2010, at age 34. I had been sick for over 3 years, I went to every specialist you could imagine, no one knew what was wrong with me. When I was finally diagnosed, I wanted a bracelet to wear. I thought that somehow it would make me feel better, like ‘look at me, I know what's wrong with me...FINALLY!’ When I didn't find any that I really liked, I figured I would make myself one. That's when 'Shades of Awareness' was born. My goal is to let people know that they are not alone!


**How long has your shop been open? I opened my Etsy shop in November of 2010


**What types of products do you offer? We have a big selection: Bookmarks, Sterling Necklaces, One Of A Kind Resin pendants, Wine Glass Charms, Charm Bracelets, Wire-Wrapped Bracelets, Pandora-Style Charms and Pendants, Inspirational Bracelets, Gemstone Bracelets, and Earrings. All in every Awareness color. Custom pieces are always welcome!


**How do you come up with the designs for your pieces? Trial and error!


**What helps keep you motivated to make new products? I have become an Awareness Activist, I want to raise awareness for everyone. I love being able to make a difference in other's lives, no matter how big or small.


**What inspires you creatively? I have become an Awareness Activist, I want to raise awareness for everyone. I love being able to make a difference in other's lives, no matter how big or small.


**What do you enjoy most about etsy? I love Etsy, everything is so unique. It is exactly what I need, it hits a big audience. People who shop on Etsy want quality and something different.


**Why did you decided to make infertility related items? I make jewelry for every Awareness. Making Infertility Awareness jewelry is special to me, because I know it touches peoples hearts. Everyone's story is different and it means a lot to me that they share that with me.


**What advice could you give to someone who is facing infertility? Don't give up! Do what you feel is right, not everyone around you!


**Any advice for loved ones of someone who is struggling with infertility? Be patient and understanding. This is a huge issue, not only emotionally, but physically.


**One thing you should never say to someone facing infertility? Why don't you just adopt!!

Some of the beautiful infertility pieces featured in this shop:




Check out her other amazing products here:  http://www.etsy.com/shop/ShadesofAwareness

Friday, April 27, 2012

Win some AWESOME prizes

Hey there everyone! Do you want to win some amazing prizes? If so, keep reading..we have over $800 in prizes during this event...8 prize packs will be awarded to hunters at a value of at least $50 each, and 1 super duper prize pack with prizes from all 37 shops in the hunt will be given to the person who spends the most money at PCF team shops during this week-long event; this is valued at over $400! Read on for details........

The PCF Team on Etsy is having a great event for April! It is called the Spring Tracks Flip Flop Scavenger Hunt! There will be 37 shops, and all will have a hidden picture that you will have to "hunt" through their shop items for (HINT- the picture is the image in this listing)! Each shop has donated a prize worth at least a $10 value; that is a total of $400 plus in prizes...woohoo!!! There will be a total of 8 prize packs given out (winners will be chosen at random, based upon number of entries correct and complete entries we have)...each prize pack will consist of 5 prizes..so each winner will get a prize pack of at least an incredible $50 value..how about that? The contest will begin at 7:00 EST on April 23rd, and will run til midnight May 3rd: all entries and PC shop purchases must be submitted by midnight May 3rd...and no entries will be accepted after this time.


Please check out the link to the start of the scavenger hunt here PCFteam Flip Flop Hunt  My shops AlwaysWithMe is  a participating shop!

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

The Fertile Garden Interview

Here is a continuation of the series on my interview with amazing etsy shops that feature infertility related products.  I have really enjoyed getting to hear of the stories behind the shops.  I think that's one of the really interesting things about etsy, you get to meet the people behind the products you buy.  I am very thankful that these shop owners have been willing to so openly discuss infertility and to share their stories.  I always find that I have so much in common with these women.  I see my story mirrored in theirs.  Today's special guest is the The Fertile Garden.  Check out this awesome shop HERE

What inspired you to start your etsy shop?  My personal journey with infertility!

How long has your shop been open? Since April 2010.
What types of products do you offer? Fertility bracelets, necklaces, relaxation aids such as sage smudge sticks, meditation stones and note cards and prints of my original paintings.

How do you come up with the designs for your pieces?  For my jewelry, the first step is researching which gemstones help which conditions. I play around with the beads until I like how it looks together.  For my original artwork, it all comes from within. I created much of that art immediately after some acupuncture sessions I had done. It was like art therapy for me, I got my emotions out in my artwork.

What helps keep you motivated to make new products? Purchasing new gemstones...or for a painting, just a rush of creativity!

What inspires you creatively? Hearing from people who need some positive influence in their lives and hoping that I can help them. Also my daughters, even when I have a rough day, I think about how lucky we are to have them :)

What do you enjoy most about etsy? I love what I do, and being able to work from home and do something I enjoy. I love when I get a nice message from a customer who has had success! I also think it is so nice when someone purchases for a friend as a surprise gift. That makes me smile.

Why did you decided to make infertility related items? I made a bracelet for myself! It helped me feel better and keep positive. Whenever I was stressed, I would reach down and play with my bracelet. I modeled the Butterfly bracelet after my own original! I wore it up until I had my girls and I still have it :)

What advice could you give to someone who is facing infertility?  My natural tendency was to hold everything in at first. This was not healthy. Find a friend to talk to, or a creative outlet, etc. You need to get your frustrations out, or you will feel eaten alive by your negativity. I know that is easier said then done, but it does help. There were times that I just wanted to curl up in a ball and shut everyone out.

Any advice for loved ones of someone who is struggling with infertility?  Offer to listen to them vent...they will appreciate it!

One thing you should never say to someone facing infertility? "Relax, and it will happen"... or "just adopt and you will get pregnant"! GRRRRRR.....

Any other things you would like to share about etsy, your shop, or infertility?  I love what I do! My shop has brought me more joy then any job I have ever had (I am a former graphic designer) Please do not hesitate to message me with any questions, or to chat! :)


Some awesome products from The Fertile Garden  Each of these products is fertility related.  Learn more about them HERE:



 The photos below are featured individually on pendants.  I love them!
Below is a MALE fertility bracelet.  This is the first time that I have seen one like this.  I believe I could get my husband to wear this one :-)!

Please be sure to visit The Fertile Garden on etsy.  There are so many unique products offered there.

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Thank You Thank you! Blog Award

I WAS HONORED WITH THE LIEBSTER AWARD!!!!



The Liebster Award!






Today, I was awarded the Liebster Award!!!!!!!

The what??

Yeah, that's what I said too. I had never heard of it before today. My friend did some research on the Liebster award, and the following is the information she found:
"Liebster' means 'favorite' or 'dearest' in German. This award, which originated in Germany, recognizes up and coming bloggers with less than 200 followers."





In accepting the award, the recipient agrees to:



1) Thank the person that gave the award and link back to their blog.



2) Copy and paste the award to your blog


3) Reveal the 5 blogs you have chosen to award and let them know by commenting on their blog.



4) Hope they pay it forward by accepting and awarding it to bloggers they would like to honor.

This is a very special  award, and I am very excited to have been awarded this honor today! I love blogging, and work to be the best person I can be, keeping my blog positive, and family friendly. It is important to me, that my blog and my personality follow my wholesome and family-oriented values and ethics; and I am very happy that these shine through, and I have received this award.

I gladly accept this award, and would like to humbly thank my wonderful friend who thought enough of me to include my blog in her list of people to pass this award onto, so a huge thank you is going out to:
Theresa, owner of TAK Unique Jewelry Designs on Etsy.  You can find her blog here:TAK Unique Designs  Thank you for thinking of me!!!!
So here are my nominations:
1.
Beadscrumptious- Blog
Store
2.
Cherub's Garden-Blog
Store
3.
Onuava- Blog
Store

4.
 Sewhavok+Art+Designs- Blog
Store

5.
Once Upon A Party- Blog
Store

These are all really awesome Blogs and Etsy Shops!!!  Please take a minute to check them out.  I am sure you will find something you love!

Once again, a BIG thanks to TAK Unique Jewelry Designs for nominating me!  Please take the time to check her out as well, I promise you won't be disappointed.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Interview with Melody from HopeOfMyHeart

Here is another interview leading up to National Infertility Awareness Week.  I had the pleasure of interviewing Melody from Hope Of My Heart.  She has a lovely little shop on etsy www.hopeofmyheart.etsy.com  She offers a variety of jewelry ranging from adoption, infertility, loss, and recently medical alert.  I was lucky enough to learn about the inspiration behind her shop and wanted to share her story. 


What inspired you to start your etsy shop? How long has your shop been open?
I started my business in February of 2005, and opened the Etsy shop in September 2007. The whole reason I started the business was I wanted to offer something to be an encouragement for women as they faced infertility. My husband and I were diagnosed with our infertility issues just 4 months after we were married. I was desperate to have a baby, even though it hadn’t been that long at the time of our diagnosis. A couple years later, we adopted our son, but I still struggled with all the emotions that accompany primary infertility. We faced primary infertility for 6 years.

I had made myself a bracelet when we started the process of adoption – simply a reminder to be patient – and people started requesting those bracelets. That’s when I opened it as a business. I had seen plenty of adoption jewelry, but none for infertility. I wanted to provide that for women. Then ladies started requesting jewelry for miscarriage and loss. . . .and as time went on I started adding other products as well.

What types of products do you offer?
I offer a variety of products, from necklaces and bracelets to rings, earrings, and even guitar picks. By far the biggest selling category is the memorial jewelry. There are infertility and adoption designs, and since so many women do go on to become mothers eventually, I also added a mother’s jewelry line. A new line of designs I’m working on at the moment is medical alert jewelry – which was started by a special request.

How do you come up with the designs for your pieces?
It varies. Sometimes I’ll see something that I like, and I’ll take those ideas and try to create something different with them. Sometimes I’ll look through my supplies and think, “What can I make that’s totally different today?” Many times though, the ideas come from a saying or an emotion – and I try to take that and make it into a piece of jewelry.

What helps keep you motivated to make new products?
Probably the biggest thing that keeps me motivated is the desire to offer designs that really speak to women – to encourage them, and to be as beautiful as they are encouraging.


What do you enjoy most about etsy?
There are so many neat things there! The sense of community is nice, but I love to just look and window shop.

Why did you decided to make infertility related items?
During my own struggle with infertility, I was a member of a forum called Hannah’s Prayer (www.hannah.org). There I learned that I wasn’t the only one going through infertility, and I wasn’t the only one who wished there was infertility jewelry available.

What advice could you give to someone who is facing infertility?
Let go and let God. Don’t let your life get completely wrapped up in the pursuit of a baby. Yes, it hurts to go through infertility, and it hurts a lot. The pain is excruciating. But don’t get so absorbed that you let life pass you by. I look back at how much I just sat on the sidelines because I couldn’t handle the pain of infertility, and I missed a lot of life because I was dwelling on my own pain too much.


Any advice for loved ones of someone who is struggling with infertility? One thing you should never say to someone facing infertility?

Be supportive, but don’t pester them about if or when they’re ever going to have children. They’re probably more sensitive about it than they let on, and don’t need you to remind them of what they don’t have or how long it’s taking. Instead, offer to listen if they need to talk, but be understanding if they don’t want to. Don’t give them advice about how to have a baby, or about so-and-so that you know that did xyz and magically got pregnant. And please, DON’T tell them to just adopt. Adoption is not a lesser option or a second choice, and it will not cause someone to become pregnant, even if you know someone who conceived after adopting.

Here are some of the beautiful pieces she creates


Monday, April 2, 2012

My Cyber Chat With Danielle shop owner of Onuava

I had the pleasure of cyber chatting with Danielle.  She has an awesome fertility related shop on etsy 

Onuava

Gorgeous Jewellery Sprinkled With Healing Crystals


Check it out here.... http://www.etsy.com/shop/Onuava?ref=pr_shop_more
I really enjoyed speaking with Danielle I am sure that you will enjoy her interview below:


What inspired you to start your etsy shop?

My husband and I have been suffering with infertility for over two years now. About 6 months ago we had the devastating news that medically our only option would be IVF but due to funding we would have to wait 4 years for this to become a reality. After feeling that I had been cheated by Western medicine I decided to look more into alternative therapies. It wasn't long before I stumbled upon the benefits of crystal therapy in treating infertility. With an already strong creative side and a passion for jewellery it wasn't too much of a surprise when I decided to put the two together and create pieces containing crystals specifically chosen for their links to fertility.
Realising how taboo the subject of infertility still is I wanted to reach out to other women in my situation and show them that they were not alone in their struggle and more importantly I wanted to try and help them realise that dream of parenthood. Thus my Etsy store was born!

How long has your shop been open?

My shop was started on the 20th November 2011 - it is still a fledgling store and I still have a long way to go. I have greatly enjoyed the learning process of it all and feel that even in a few short months my skill base has improved vastly.

What types of products do you offer?

I offer mainly necklaces, bracelets, rings and earrings but I am hoping to expand this to include hair ornaments, brooches, even more key-rings. Although a lot of my shop items are aimed at women suffering with infertility, there are also a few pieces of pregnancy jewellery and memorial jewellery - something very close to my heart.

How do you come up with the designs for your pieces?

Usually I will come up with a specific concept such as pregnancy and then seek out which crystals are most beneficial. After I have all my stones and crystals together I will use the visual aesthetics to inspire the design. Being a perfectionist usually means that the design will evolve several times before I am finally happy with the item. If it is a custom piece I will make a few designs, photograph them and send these images to the buyer. Working hand in hand with the buyer I will then create a design they are happy with.

What helps keep you motivated to make new products?

My main source of motivation is being able to wear all finished sample pieces. An ever-expanding jewellery collection is an absolute must for me. I like to have pieces to match certain outfits and moods, this ensures that I am constantly mentally designing new pieces.

What inspires you creatively?

Infertility has weakened my self esteem and self confidence. Being creative has strengthened this weakness and allowed me to express all my emotions in a positive and meaningful way.
My creativity has provided a much needed outlet from the stress and pressure that infertility creates.

What do you enjoy most about etsy?

My favourite thing about Etsy is the sense of community that goes with being a store owner. No matter what your level of selling experience there is always somebody available to help you out and assist in improving your store, whether through advice, critiques or sharing your items.
Etsy is a fun and social place to also just 'hang' out. There is something very rewarding about passing on advice that was given to me at the beginning of my Etsy career to help another seller in need.

Why did you decided to make infertility related items?

My husband and I are classed as unexplained infertility and like most people in this group I feel like one of the forgotten ones. I wanted something beautiful and functional that represented the struggle that we all face on a daily basis. When people ask about the origin of my jewellery I will proudly tell them what inspired it and if they enquire, a little background on our struggle. The world doesn't seem to want to acknowledge infertility and there have been many times I have felt like less of a woman because I am struggling to procreate. I wanted to make jewellery aimed at infertility not just to help other women but also to ensure that they do not feel alone on their journey.

What advice could you give to someone who is facing infertility?

Don't put your life on hold for the prospect of pregnancy and don't set yourself deadlines to fall pregnant. I wasted over a year putting things off or declining invitations to fun events because I was worried that accepting or doing them could be harmful for a perspective baby. Sadly I just missed out on life and there was no pregnancy or baby to take the sting out of this. These days if I want a drink or to go out for a relaxing spa day then I will do it, usually without a second thought. I think of this as my acceptance.
Making deadlines to fall pregnant by is a big no, no. I know lots of women struggling with infertility (myself included) that will state 'by this time next year I will be pregnant', Sadly you have no control over this and when your deadline comes and goes with no positive test you feel disappointed and as if in some way you have failed. Infertility is hard enough without putting unnecessary pressure on yourself.

Any advice for loved ones of someone who is struggling with infertility?

Please be aware that although you may feel you understand what your loved one is going through, infertility is something you cannot relate to unless you have suffered it. Be mindful of everything you say and realise that if they are having a tough day the last thing they will want to talk about is baby related topics. Be supportive and aware of all important upcoming dates relating to infertility such as specialist appointments or medical tests. Enquire how these went but be prepared not to pry if your loved one seems closed off - they may have had some bad news that they are unable to share just yet.

One thing you should never say to someone facing infertility?

Most importantly never say anything upon the lines of 'you're trying too hard' or 'just relax and it will happen'. Statically this theory has been disproved and it is like a slap in the face for someone struggling with infertility. It is along the lines of telling somebody to stop breathing, impossible not to think about infertility when it is something you are faced with on a daily basis.

Any other things you would like to share about etsy, your shop, or infertility?

Be strong and remember that you are not alone. Our struggle may be harder then most, but we will appreciate our baby that much more because of it.


Some of Danielle's beautiful piece:




Check out these awesome products here  http://www.etsy.com/shop/Onuava?ref=pr_shop_more

Raising Awareness

Throughout the month of April I will be featuring some amazing shops that offer products related to infertility.  Get to know about their products and the inspiration  behind them. Learn about what inspires their creativity.   Please check back during the month of April to see and learn about these great shops.

Sunday, April 1, 2012

National Infertility Awareness Week April 2012


Did you know that April 22 - April 28, 2012 is National Infertility Awareness Week?  Chances are you know a couple that has been effected by infertility.  Often times couples do not discuss their infertility related challenges with others.  For several years we struggled silently.  It wasn't till our adoption process began that we actually opened up to friends and family about what we had been through.  Why?  I am not entirely sure.  I guess in part because trying to conceive is typically a private matter, and because we weren't ready for all of our well meaning family and friends tips on baby making, and their self diagnosis of our infertility. 

The initial adjustment to making this a public matter was a tiny bit rocky, but I am since extremely happy we have the support of those around us who love us.  Not to mention, I don't have to make up lame excuses for why we aren't having another baby yet.  My creativity in that area was really running low.  I think the more people that spread the word, the more change we can hopefully create. 

Some facts on infertility from http://www.resolve.org/about/fast-facts-about-fertility.html

Infertility is defined as the inability to conceive after one year of unprotected intercourse (six months if the woman is over age 35) or the inability to carry a pregnancy to live birth.
  • Infertility affects 7.3 million people in the U.S. This figure represents 12% of women of childbearing age, or 1 in 8 couples. (2002 National Survey of Family Growth)
  • Approximately one-third of infertility is attributed to the female partner, one-third attributed to the male partner and one-third is caused by a combination of problems in both partners or, is unexplained.  (http://www.asrm.org/)
  • A couple ages 29-33 with a normal functioning reproductive system has only a 20-25% chance of conceiving in any given month (National Women’s Health Resource Center). After six months of trying, 60% of couples will conceive without medical assistance. (Infertility As A Covered Benefit, William M. Mercer, 1997)
  • Approximately 44% of women with infertility have sought medical assistance. Of those who seek medical intervention, approximately 65% give birth. (Infertility As A Covered Benefit, William M. Mercer, 1997)
  • Approximately 85-90% of infertility cases are treated with drug therapy or surgical procedures. Fewer than 3% need advanced reproductive technologies like in vitro fertilization (IVF). (http://www.asrm.org/)
  • The most recently available statistics indicate the live birth rate per fresh non-donor embryo transfer is 41.2% if the woman is under 35 years of age and 31.6% if the woman is age 35-37. (Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology, 2009)
  • Fifteen states have passed laws requiring that insurance policies cover some level of infertility treatment: Arkansas, California, Connecticut, Hawaii, Illinois, Louisiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Montana, New Jersey, New York, Ohio, Rhode Island, Texas and West Virginia. (For more on this visit the insurance coverage section of resolve.org.)
I am in one of the states where infertility coverage is not mandatory, and even luckier to have insurance that covers NOTHING for infertility related treatments, even though I have a diagnosed medical condition that causes it.  I am hopeful that as awareness continues to rise, more insurance companies will start to cover treatment.

Welcome

Hello!  Welcome to my blog.  I am nearing the one year mark of my etsy store, http://www.alwayswithme.etsy.com/  and in honor of that milestone have decided to start a blog. 

I suffered a miscarriage in April 2010 (on my birthday), after several years of trying to conceive.  It was a very difficult thing to go through.  I had items that I desperately wanted to hold on to from my pregnancy.  My loss gave life to my shop.  My little store started out exclusively selling memory boxes for Pregnancy & Infant Loss.  Each item I make really helps me to feel connected to my Angel Baby.  It helps me feel like I am always keeping her memory alive. Since opening I have expanded my shop to include items that relate to pregnancy and infant loss, adoption, infertility, home, and family.  These elements have shaped my life in so many ways and I couldn't think of a better inspiration for my shop.  

I plan to use these inspriations as the theme for my blog as well.  I will explore these topics, share finds related to them on etsy, and so much more. 

If you have an etsy shop what inspires you to create your products?  If you don't yet have a shop what do you think could inspire you to create?

A few of my angel baby memory boxes.  The blue and white star box, is the one I made for my little angel. 




What I like about etsy!

Almost a year into my Etsy adventure, I often still feel like a rookie.  There are so many features to this site that I am always learning something new.  I love being able to put a little piece of myself into each product I make.  I can't explain how excited I was when I made my first sale.  I definitely still get excited over each little  milestone my shop reaches, like the fist time I shipped internationally, or to the other side of the country.  I should warn you if you don't already have an etsy shop, creating one is addictive.  

It's also so cool to get to know the people who create the awesome products that I buy.  So what is my favorite part about etsy?  The community.  There are teams for just about every purpose or common interest.  The people are welcoming and help you to expand your shop, and to get your name out here.  I strongly recommend joining teams on etsy.  You will learn a lot through them.  Teams are great for promoting your shop, getting to know people, and also helping to promote others. 

Here are two of my favorite teams, in no particular order of course ;-)

Promoting Creative Friends AKA pcfteam- http://www.etsy.com/teams/10036/promoting-creative-friends
   This team is filled with knowledgeable people,that are very welcoming to new team members.  They are very active, and always have a ton of cool threads (conversations) going.   There are a lot of promotional activities going on as well.  I can't say enough good about this team, you should definitely check them out!

Treasury Land AKA treland-  http://www.etsy.com/teams/7400/treasury-island 
  If you enjoy creating treasuries this is an awesome team.  They are also active, and welcome new members.  I have seen some of the best treasuries produced by this group.  There are always fun topics in to participate in that keep you involved and promoting one another. 

What is Treasury? Straight from Etsy...

Treasury is an ever-changing, member-curated shopping gallery comprised of lists of items. Lists contain 16 items. Members can feature their favorite items, items selected on a theme or whatever they like. Any Etsy member can create a Treasury list, and there is no limit to the number of lists you can create. You can edit your lists as often as you desire, and post comments to other members' lists. The number of views your list receives as well as the number of clicks the items featured in your list receive are displayed in the list's Stats section

Here are two of my most recent treasuries.  They feature shops from both of the teams listed above.\

Animals Gone Wild  http://www.etsy.com/treasury/MTQ4ODgzNjJ8MjYxNDkzOTk3Nw/animals-gone-wild?ref=pr_treasury


Check out the above listing from LDphotography here:  http://www.etsy.com/listing/95615186/aceo-art-card-metallic-photography-the?ref=tre-2614939977-8

Pretty Pretty Pink  http://www.etsy.com/treasury/MTQ4ODgzNjJ8MjU2NjE2OTg2Ng/shades-of-pink-i-think?ref=pr_treasury

Check out the above listing from LusciousPhotos  here:  http://www.etsy.com/listing/72834897/white-and-pink-gerbera-daisy-with-dew-on?ref=tre-2566169866-7